I couldn't resist starting off the Library's "How
to Find the Right Person" Section with the following letter.
I'm still shaking my head over this one...
Dear Dr. Tracy
One night I was messing around with my daughter's boyfriend
and he was picking on me and all at once, I kissed him and
he let me. Nothing else happened until the following week
when we made love.
I like him a lot but he's my daughter's. My daughter's 16
and he's 24. He was married before he met my daughter. His
wife won't give him a divorce. Right now he's not working
and trying to get SSD because of his drinking. He's also
living with us.
I know I'm 14 years older than him, but I can't help myself,
it just happened. The last time we were alone together I
said, "I love you." I told him to say those words back to
me and he did.
I told my daughter what happened, but when she asked him, he
denied it. My daughter says I'm sick. I'm not, I just like
him a lot. Please help me. What should I do?
Dear Mom,
You're not sick, but you're old enough to know better
than to carry on like this. You're in a major metropolitan
area, surrounded by hundreds of thousands of men. Surely
you can find one who isn't married, isn't an alchoholic, has
a job and doesn't already belong to your daughter.
Let your daughter be upset with you for bouncing this
turkey, not screwing him. In addition to being married,
unemployed, and a drunk, he's too old for your daughter,
he's cheating on her with you, and he's sure not worth the
pain he's bringing into your lives.
With nothing to do all day but cause trouble, that's exactly
what this guy will continue to do as long as he's hanging
around the house, and you and your daughter will both
suffer.
However, he didn't cause the current crisis. You did. You
seduced him, plain and simple. Now it's up to you to accept
the blame and take steps to resolve the problem. Be a good
Mom and think of your daughter, not him. Plead temporary
insanity or whatever it takes to apologize to her for
fooling around with him, promise her you'll never, ever do
anything like this again, but that given the situation, he's
got to go.
Then tell him to find another place to live. Your daughter
may be very unhappy, but you'll be doing her a favor in the
long run. Some day, she'll thank you for getting this jerk
out of your lives.
Related Keywords: Bad Prospects, Sexual Attraction
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