When It's Love For You
The "In Love" Stage
You think obsessively about the other person all the time.
You think they're the most wonderful person you've ever met,
you wonder what they see in you, and worry about losing
The Beginnings Of True Love
You think about having kids together, or being Mom to his
kids or Dad to her kids. You think about growing old
together. You tell everyone you know how wonderful he or
she is. If he or she is happy, you're happy, and you fret
if he or she is not. You're best friends.
When It's Love For The Other
They give you lots of attention and lots of time, including
Saturday nights and holidays. Anyone who's not available
those times is highly suspect. Either they're already in a
committed relationship and just playing around on the side,
or they have others who are their "A" choice dates, and
you're on the "B" list.
They call when they say they're going to call. They show up
when they say they will. He or she is there for you.
If It's A Man
A man who's serious about you will want to make plans way
into the future and see you on a regular basis. He'll want
to see you on weekends, Saturday nights and holidays.
He will also spend money on you. If he's not well off, he
may not spend a lot, but he'll do it with joy, and you'll
feel a sense of generosity from him. If he never gives you
any gifts, or always wants you to pay your own way, you can
assume he hasn't learned to share or just doesn't want to
share with you.
If It's A Woman
A woman who's serious will want to see you on a regular
basis. She'll be available on weekends, Saturday nights and
She will cook for you (or try -- give her credit for
trying), dress up for you, and also spend money on you. If
she always wants you to pay for everything and she never
offers to pay or to at least reciprocate in some way, by
cooking dinner or buying tickets, or doing something for
you, you can assume she hasn't learned to share or just
doesn't want to share with you.
THE ACID TEST
The above answers to "How Do You Know When It's
Love?" are, in truth, only indications.
The real answer is actually simpler. The proof is in the
pudding. True love should lead to commitment. The acid
test of how you love each other is how your relationship is
progressing. See "The Steps to
Commitment"; this article is extremely important for
anyone seeking a fulfilling, committed relationship.
Related Keywords: Love Strategies, Commitment
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