If you're not ready to settle down and are perfectly happy
just having someone convenient to date, then you don't need
this article. But if you want to get into a committed
relationship and you're presently involved in an
unfulfilling one, read on: you're more handicapped than you
Even if you're unaware of it, you may be in a low-level
depression. Unsatisfying relationships are depressing.
Also, you're probably upset with yourself, perhaps in an
unacknowledged way, for spending time with someone you know
is wrong for you. Sure, you tell yourself that you're only
going out with Slimey Sam or Nutsy Nancy until the right
person comes along. The problem is that when you're
depressed, you're not at your best and most attractive, so
you're not attracting the right kind of people.
Worse, you may be actively repelling the right kind of
people. People hear about other people's reputations. If
Mr. or Ms. Right is attracted to you but sees you out with
someone who's known to be a sleazeball or an airhead or a
loser, he or she is going to conclude that that's the kind
of person you're always attracted to. Yuk!
The only answer is to bite the bullet. End the "convenient"
relationship. Get Mr. or Ms. Wrong out of your life, so you
can be happy and attract a really nice person. It's better
to fight being a little lonely than to miss the right person
when he or she comes along.
Cold turkey is the best way to get out of a relationship.
Continuing to see your convenient person "just once more" or
because "there's nobody else around" isn't the answer.
You'll find several articles which will help you in this
section of my Library.
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