Worn down by a string of go-nowhere relationships and tired
of being alone? Don't be discouraged. Anyone can get a
good love relationship by following my guidelines. They
require time, effort, and a little mental discipline, but if
you follow them, they absolutely will work for you.
- 1. CHOOSE INTELLIGENTLY
- Even guys, who traditionally make the first move, will
respond to a woman who makes a pass at them. Admit it,
whether you're a man or a woman, if someone cute flirts with
you, you tend to react with your hormones instead of your
head. So get out of hormone-response mode and start doing
the choosing based on some criteria you've established in
more thoughtful moments. You're not sure what your criteria
might be? That's OK; everyone has preferences, and if you
start making a list, you'll be surprised at how it helps
focus you on real prospects instead of time-wasting flings.
(See "Developing Realistic
- 2. INCREASE THE QUANTITY OF ELEGIBLE PEOPLE
- Sorry, there's no way to totally avoid "the dating
scene." Increasing your odds of finding Mr. or Ms. Right
requires both being more selective and meeting more
"possibles." Whatever you're doing now to meet people, I'm
sure you can find new ways to meet more (see "Are You Looking Or Waiting?").
Sure, it's time-consuming, and sure, a lot of the
"possibles" will turn out to be turkeys, but meeting a
couple of new people per week will add excitement to your
life. And it will add to your allure. Remember, no one
wants to eat at a restaurant with an empty parking lot.
- 3. CHOOSE ONLY FROM THOSE WHO WANT YOU
- One-sided love is masochistic. If you're short and
dark-haired and you meet someone who always wanted a tall
blonde, say goodbye. Find someone whose fantasy you fill.
But how do you get someone to tell you their fantasy mate?
Isn't that impossible? No. It's actually quite simple.
(See "When Love Happens
I know, we were all brought up to believe that you can't
"make" Love happen; Mr. or Ms. Right will somehow drop out
of the blue. It's a wonderful myth, all bundled up with
Cinderella and Camelot, and it quite conveniently appeals to
Every single person harbors an "Out of the Blue" fantasy,
usually some version of what Hollywood calls the "Cute
Meet": Tom Cruise or Sharon Stone bumps their shopping cart
into yours, down comes the cereal display, your eyes meet as
you're picking up the Puffed Kashi, and you both live
happily ever after...
Can you set aside your favorite "Out of the Blue" fantasy
for awhile? If not, it's OK, I understand, and you'll still
get lots of helpful hints from this Section of my Library.
But if you can, and you follow my Guidelines, I'll have you
in a solid, loving relationship within a year.
Related Keywords: Meeting People, Dating Strategies, Your Requirements
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